One Wife

The hysterical doctrines of adultery and monogamy are two that the post-Nicene church has messed up miserably, with closed eyes, and fear, following the familiar doctrine of the ancient Roman Government to limit the numbers of Christians, and issues of inheritance of church property. Disregarding the Word of God, the Roman Catholic institution declared one wife for a christian man, no wife for a priest.

This is not my teaching. This is not my personal thoughts as I read the King James Version of the Bible. It is not my push for polygamy. It’s not my rationalization of forbidden desire.

It is an exegetic study of the Word of God. Before you write this off as being evil, do an internet search to see where the one-wife commandment actually came from, check out the scriptures from the Word of God, and then, wonder how we can continue to be so gullible and cruel.

Certainly, a man must love his one wife by not forcing polygamy on her. A Roman-christian minded wife should rethink what it means to love her husband by not forcing monogamy on him. If we are to love one another (the commandment of the New Testament), “forsaking all others” is not an option.

As we progress through this study, you will see that there are tons of biblical instruction concerning marriage that you will not see in the prevalent teaching in the church. The Roman Christian Tradition starts with Gen 2:24, and then goes from there with tons of assumption, rationalization, Romanticism, and psychology.

So, if you say you get your values from God, there’s a choice ahead: reject God’s Word in favor of continuing in error, or think differently according to the Word of God, whom you SAY is your Lord.

Do you believe in God? Believe in his word.

How many wives is a man supposed to have?

One.

Why?

Because the Bible says so.

Ok, where?

Uuh, It’s in the New Testament. Jesus nailed the Old Testament to his cross.

Ok, so where is the New Testament, one-wife commandment?

Uhmm, . . . I don’t know. Ask Pastor, he knows.

If Pastor knows, he knows something that is not in the Word of God.

Wait, here it is: “ . . . the two become one. See? It says one”--

Gen 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

--This is the fundamental basis for the one-wife teaching: take it out, and there would be nothing. You would certainly have to read into it, a preconceived thought of a command that a man have only one wife.

Somehow, it confirms the decree from Rome that children of the clergy be declared illegitimate, bishops have no wife, and christian men have only one wife, and guarantees a wife for every jerk, and a dilemma for the surplus women: marry the leftovers, or remain single. All children have fathers, but few have Dads.

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Look at the study “KJV”, and see why we would want to study the original language words.

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STRONG’S Lexicon References

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ThereforeH5921

על

‛al

Properly the same as H5920 used as a preposition (in the singular or plural, often with prefix, or as conjugation with a particle following); above, over, upon, or against (yet always in this last relation with a downward aspect) in a great variety of applications

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(Therefore)H3651

כּן

ke^n

kane

From H3559; properly set upright; hence (figuratively as adjective) just; but usually (as adverb or conjugation) rightly or so (in various applications to manner, time and relation; often with other particles)

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LeaveH5800

עזב

‛a^zab

aw-zab'

A primitive root; to loosen, that is, relinquish, permit, etc.

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(leave)H853

את

'e^th

ayth

Apparently contracted from H226 in the demonstrative sense of entity; properly self (but generally used to point out more definitely the object of a verb or preposition, even or namely)

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And shall cleaveH1692

דּבק

da^baq

daw-bak'

A primitive root; properly to impinge, that is, cling or adhere; figuratively to catch by pursuit

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Unto his wifeH802

נשׁים אשּׁה

'ishsha^h na^shı^ym

ish-shaw', naw-sheem'

The first form is the feminine of H376 or H582; the second form is an irregular plural; a woman (used in the same wide sense as H582).

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OneH259

אחד

'echa^d

ekh-awd'

A numeral from H258; properly united, that is, one; or (as an ordinal) first

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FleshH1320

בּשׂר

ba^śa^r

baw-sawr'

From H1319; flesh (from its freshness); by extension body, person; also (by euphemism) the pudenda of a man

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Sorry, I’m not the one that wrote this, so it‘s not my idea. I’m just showing what the truth is.

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Gen 2:24 ThereforeH5921 H3651(rightly so) shall a manH376 leaveH5800 (H853)(loosen himself) his fatherH1 and his mother,H517 and shall cleaveH1692(pursue) unto his wife:H802(a woman) and they shall beH1961 oneH259(United) flesh.H1320(not spirit)

Rightly so, shall a man loosen himself from his father and mother, and pursue a woman, and they shall be united flesh.

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1Co 6:16 is clearer what the term “One Flesh” means:

1Co 6:16 What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.

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So, when the two become one, it is the one male and one female who become united flesh (there is no heteromale, or exomale, or such). The two have sex. It’s not hard to understand, unless you utterly refuse.

The term “two become one” does not say how many wives. You certainly do have to read into it, to add “one wife“. If a man has more than one wife, he is one flesh with each of them.

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“I take you to be my lawfully wedded wife . . .

From this day forward . . . in sickness and in health . . .

Forsaking all others until death do us part.

The wedding vows are all there, found in the principles of LOVE, but

“Forsaking all others”?

Use e-sword to try and find it. Nope. But there IS someone the man is supposed to forsake: Not ALL others, but his FATHER AND MOTHER.

God does not command nor prohibit a certain number of wives.
Let’s See . . .

1Co 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

Ok, so let’s do it--but there’s a problem: monogamy works just fine if the populations of males and females were equal. But in our society, where the women outnumber the men, and many of the men are gay, many women just have to go FORSAKEN. Is that keeping the instruction to let every woman have her own husband? Is it fair to the children of deadbeat husbands?

You may know more than just one woman who at one time or another, has said, “I’m never gonna find a husband because all the good men are taken.” Christian women who miss out on marrying her high school sweetheart have to make the choice of either becoming unequally yoked, or staying unmarried.

To have children, children, and more, and more children, and more children is not the reason for having more than one wife, but that every woman should have her own husband. The reason that every woman is to have her own husband is not to please God, or glorify Jesus, but to avoid fornication.

A Christian woman, in love and hope for the future, gets knocked up by her boyfriend, and he refuses to accept responsibility, hits her, and leaves.

Christian women don’t do that? It’s her fault? She should accept God’s punishment for her sin? A godly man for a husband is out of the question for her? Her child will have no father? It’s God’s curse to the third and fourth generation?

Whose rule is that? Doctrine of devils--

1Ti 4:1 Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils;

1Ti 4:2 Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron;

1Ti 4:3 FORBIDDING TO MARRY, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth.

THE EXAMPLE OF THE BISHOP

One wife for the Bishop is the Greek word “Mia”

1Ti 3:2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of oneG3391 wife, . . .

One G3391
μία
mia
mee'-ah
Irregular feminine of G1520; one or first

One, or first. So, is it “one wife“ or is it “first wife”? Yes, there IS a difference, and it’s different enough to change the meaning of the verse. “First wife” means there could also be a second. “One wife” means one, not two, not zero.

Looking at how the word, “mia” is used in other passages in which the meaning of “one” is more apparent, you can see how the King James Version is misleading.

One wife, or first wife?
“Mia” is also the same word as the first day of the week. There are six other days in the week--

Act 20:7 And upon the firstG3391 (G3391 μία mia mee'-ah) day of the week, when the disciples came together to break bread . . .

Mia is also one of three tabernacles--

Mar 9:5 And Peter answered and said to Jesus, Master, it is good for us to be here: and let us make three tabernacles; oneG3391 for thee, and oneG3391 for Moses, and oneG3391 for Elias.

One wife, or first wife?
“Mia” is not the same as “Proton”--first, then second--
First G4412
πρωτον
prōton
pro'-ton
Neuter of G4413 as an adverb (with or without G3588); firstly (in time, place, order, or importance)

One wife, or first wife?
One God (not two) is the Greek word “heis”. A bishop should be the husband of “heis” wife? Check it again--nope. That’s not what it says--
Eph 4:6 OneG1520 God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you all.

One G1520
εις
heis
hice
(Including the neuter [etc.] εν hen); a primary numeral; one

So, if a bishop is to be an example to the flock, he should have at least one wife, not single, not divorced.

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God created Adam and Eve; not Adam, Eve, Suzie, and Jane. The King James Version of the Bible says that Adam and Eve were married, and they had a divine mission, in marriage--

Gen 2:25 And they were both naked, the manH120 and his wife,H802 and were not ashamed.

Adam H120
אדם
'a^da^m
aw-dawm'
From H119; ruddy, that is, a human being (an individual or the species, mankind, etc.

And his wife
H802
נשׁים אשּׁה
'ishsha^h na^shı^ym
ish-shaw', naw-sheem'
The first form is the feminine of H376 or H582; the second form is an irregular plural; a woman (used in the same wide sense as H582).

God said it, I believe it, that settles it? The same phrase, “and his wife” is used for the animals going into the ark of Noah.

Look in the Hebrew Old Testament (HOT+)--
Gen 7:2 Of every clean beast thou shalt take to thee by sevens, the male and his femaleH802' na^shı^ym): and of beasts that are not clean by two, the male and his female.(H802'ishsha^h)

In order to please James I, King of England, and Head of the Church of England, the forty-seven scholars of the Church of England had to Christianize the first 'a^da^m and 'ishsha^h to make sure they were married before they could have s-s--, uhmmm, consummate.

But 'a^da^m and 'ishsha^h did not have a christian marriage. Logical deduction reveals that if 'a^da^m and 'ishsha^h were faithful to each other, forsaking all others, and faithfully taught it to their children, mankind would have ended with 'a^da^m, 'ishsha^h, and their children. God’s command to be fruitful and multiply would have been impossible.

The logical reality is that 'a^da^m and 'ishsha^h had other sons and daughters who were not mentioned, (Who was Cain’s wife?) and there was lots of inbreeding, which was ok at the time, until order started taking shape beginning with Lamech, who was the first to “take” two na^shı^ym.

Notice that Adam never “took” 'ishsha^h, and neither did Cain. The norm for the rest of the scriptures, beginning with Lamech, is that wives were not “known”, but “taken”.

So, Adam, and Cain “knew” women, and the rest, starting with Lamech, “took” women.

I know--that’s not what we’ve been taught for centuries of the post-Nicene Roman Christian Tradition. Don’t just reject it in anger, but be honest with yourself, and study to see if it’s right. Where is the truth? Truth does not come from the priest or pastor. Truth does not come from Wesley. It‘s in the Word of God. Love rejoices in the truth. Give God the glory. Let God be true, and every man a liar.

Adah was the first woman to be taken as wife, not Khavah (Eve)--

Gen 4:19 And Lamech took unto him two wives (na^shı^ym): the name of the one was Adah, and the name of the other Zillah.

The Commandment--

Exo 20:14 Thou shalt not commit adultery.

And then in the very next chapter--

Exo 21:10 If he take him another wife; her food, her raiment, and her duty of marriage, shall he not diminish.

Having more than one wife is not adultery. [Look at the study, “Adultery”.]

Deut 21:15 does NOT say “if a man have two wives, he commits adultery”--

Deu 21:15 If a man have two wives, one beloved, and another hated, and they have born him children, both the beloved and the hated; and if the firstborn son be hers that was hated:

Deu 21:16 Then it shall be, when he maketh his sons to inherit that which he hath, that he may not make the son of the beloved firstborn before the son of the hated, which is indeed the firstborn:

Deu 21:17 But he shall acknowledge the son of the hated for the firstborn, by giving him a double portion of all that he hath: for he is the beginning of his strength; the right of the firstborn is his.

God gave David his master’s wives, and would have given him more--

2Sa 12:7 And Nathan said to David, Thou art the man. Thus saith t

he LORD God of Israel, I anointed thee king over Israel, and I delivered thee out of the hand of Saul;

2Sa 12:8 And I gave thee thy master's house, and thy master's wives into thy bosom, and gave thee the house of Israel and of Judah; and if that had been too little, I would moreover have given unto thee such and such things.

In the Roman Christian way of thinking, You can have silver, gold, horses, and “abundant life“, but God forbid that you should have more than one wife--

Deu 17:16 But he shall not multiply horses to himself, nor cause the people to return to Egypt, to the end that he should multiply horses: forasmuch as the LORD hath said unto you, Ye shall henceforth return no more that way.

Deu 17:17 Neither shall he multiply wives to himself, that his heart turn not away: neither shall he greatly multiply to himself silver and gold.

Don’t uncover the nakedness of thy father, mother, or your father’s wife: three different people--

Lev 18:7 The nakedness of thy father, or the nakedness of thy mother, shalt thou not uncover: she is thy mother; thou shalt not uncover her nakedness.

Lev 18:8 The nakedness of thy father's wife shalt thou not uncover: it is thy father's nakedness.

Paul said that there was fornication in the church, and it was not the man who had two wives, but the one who had his father‘s wife (not his mother)--

1Co 5:1 It is reported commonly that there is fornication among you, and such fornication as is not so much as named among the Gentiles, that one should have his father's wife.

It seems that the normal number of wives in the Old Testament was one, two, three, or four. A few men had more, David had 18 wives. Solomon had 700 wives, and 300 concubines, which was the wrong thing to do. Gideon had “many“wives.

Jdg 8:30 And Gideon had threescore and ten sons of his body begotten: for he had many wives.

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Biblically, the number of wives to a man is a non-issue, but there laws and exhortations that govern it. Look at the study, “Adultery”.

General rules of Christian polygamy, based largely on love:

A man who knows only how to impress of his buddies at the bar surely doesn’t need even one wife, especially if he is prone to ending arguments with his fists--
Col 3:19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.

If a man is able and willing, let him receive it. A man who is gay cannot please a wife, and wouldn‘t want to.

A man whose cup is full, having one wife, should not take another--

Mat 19:11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.

Mat 19:12 For there are some eunuchsG2135, which were so born from their mother's womb [Gay, deformed, retarded): and there are some eunuchsG2135, which were made eunuchsG2135 of men (castrated, indoctrinated, forbidden): and there be eunuchsG2135, which have made themselves eunuchsG2135 for the kingdom of heaven's sake (1 Cor 7:38). He that is able to receive it (marriage), let him receive it.

Eunuch G2135
ευνουχος
eunouchos
yoo-noo'-khos
From ευνή eunē (a bed) and G2192; a castrated person (such being employed in Oriental bed chambers); by extension an impotent or unmarried man; by implication a chamberlain (state officer): - eunuch.

One man, one wife is fine. No man is required to take a second wife (Noah). No man is required to take even one wife (Paul).). No man should take 700 wives (Solomon).

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A Husband must not take another wife, or even be looking, without the blessing and participation of his first wife.

A man’s first wife is given to him by her father or her own volition.

Other wives are brought to him by his first wife--

Gen 29:27 Fulfil her week, and we will give thee this also for the service which thou shalt serve with me yet seven other years.

Gen 29:28 And Jacob did so, and fulfilled her week: and he (Laban) gave him (Jacob) Rachel his daughter to wife also (with Leah).

Gen 30:4 And she (Rachel) gave him (Jacob) Bilhah her handmaid to wife: and Jacob went in unto her.

Gen 30:9 When Leah saw that she had left bearing, she took Zilpah her maid, and gave her Jacob to wife.

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Each wife can marry again if their husband dies--
1Co 7:39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.

It’s not a three or four-way marriage: the women are not married to each other. They are sisters in the Lord, and they should love one another, but they are not “sister wives”. Remember, the two (not many) become one? —

Mat 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

The wives should love one another--

Rom 12:10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another;

There’s no reason for any woman to go without a husband--
1Co 7:2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.

The man must not have too many wives to hinder his giving to any one of them due benevolence. No schedules, where that for the wives, every other night is spent alone. Spontaneity is the norm. Snuggle every night. Talk over and agree on arrangements. Threesomes okay. IT’S NOT ADULTERY. Look at the study on “Adultery”.--

1Co 7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband.

1Co 7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

1Co 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.

The marriage is worldly and temporary, “until death do us part--
Mat 22:29 Jesus answered and said unto them, Ye do err, not knowing the scriptures, nor the power of God.

Mat 22:30 For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven.

A man must not take more than his share of wives even if he is the prophet, or king (no lost boys) --

In Genesis chapter 6, take away the error of wondering how spiritual angels took wives of flesh, and reconsider if the giants were those men who bullied out the other men, and took more than their share of wives, and did not rule in love.--

Spirit does not beget flesh, so angels do not beget men.
God created man, so men are “of God”.
The woman was taken from man, so women are “of men”

H5303
נפל נפיל
nephı^yl nephil
nef-eel', nef-eel'
From H5307; properly, a feller, that is, a bully or tyrant: - giant.

Gen 6:1 And it came to pass, when men began to multiply on the face of the earth, and daughters were born unto them,

Gen 6:2 That the sons of God (that is, the men) saw the daughters of men (that is, the women) that they were fair; and they took them wives of all which they chose (not caring for the other men, but were bullies).

Gen 6:3 And the LORD said, My spirit shall not always strive with man, for that he also is flesh: yet his days shall be an hundred and twenty years.

Gen 6:4 There were giantsH5303 (Bullies, Tyrants) in the earth in those days; and also after that (like father, like son), when the sons of God (that is, the men, particularly these bullies) came in unto the daughters of men (that is, the women), and they bare children to them, the same (that is, the tyrants) became mighty men (not angels) which were of old, men (not angels) of renown (because they begot many children, and the other men had none. And God saw that as wickedness.)

Gen 6:5 And GOD saw that the wickedness of man was great in the earth, and that every imagination of the thoughts of his heart was only evil continually (How would you order your life if you knew you wouldn‘t have a wife because the women were all taken by a few tyrants?).

Gen 6:6 And it repented the LORD that he had made man on the earth, and it grieved him at his heart.

--so, taking more than your share of wives is wickedness.

So, we have been led by the Roman Christian Tradition to believe that it’s sin for two women to love the same man (the same law as two men loving the same woman--Adultery).

We expect God to work miracles for a mother who has no husband, because all of the christian men are taken. Her children have no dad, and all she gets from us is good wishes, a prayer, and a commandment to abstain. What a mess! The only reason not to give these women and children legitimacy is that somebody doesn’t like it. It’s only a bad habit.

There is much more to this. The best place to go to learn more is www.TruthBearer.org

There are pages and pages of irrefutable scripture references.

www.Lovenotforce.com describes the standard for Christian polygamy.

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In closing--
Jas 3:1 My brethren, be not many masters, knowing that we shall receive the greater condemnation.

As always, if I’m wrong about any of this, someone needs to show me my error in God‘s Word, and not just angrily criticize. Teachers receive the greater condemnation. Don’t let it happen to me, as I bring down innocent believers with me, by teaching false doctrine.

But, if this is the Word of God, then we the one church, from Catholics to Baptists, to Mormons, need to think differently and be aligned with it. Let us discard the error with joy. Believing and knowing the truth will make us free to live the abundant life, and glorify God. Read “Call to Unity”, and my prayer.

In the name of Yahoshua HaMashiach, and in His love,

Wesley Speck, nobody but His servant.